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How to De-Escalate a Chat

Purpose:

This guide offers techniques for effectively de-escalating challenging chat interactions, addressing customer concerns, and resolving issues while maintaining professionalism and control.


Step 1: Understand the Customer's Issue

When a customer’s messages begin to show frustration or agitation, it’s crucial to fully understand their problem before responding. Even if their request seems unreasonable, acknowledging their concerns is essential.

  • Active Listening and Rephrasing:
    • Use reflective listening to rephrase their issue and proposed solution in your response. This helps show that you understand the situation.
    • Example: "I just want to confirm, you're saying [restate their issue], and you would like us to [restate their requested solution], is that correct?"

This step does two things:

  1. Creates Agreement: It encourages the customer to agree with you on at least one point, even if it’s small.
  2. Shows Empathy: It demonstrates that you understand their perspective, helping to calm the situation.
    • Note: Customers often believe that if you understand their point of view, you’ll be more likely to help because they assume they are right.


Step 2: Maintain a Confident Tone

Your tone is conveyed through the words you choose and the speed of your responses. In a chat, it's crucial to project confidence while also maintaining empathy.

  • Avoid Uncertainty:
    • Refrain from using phrases that imply doubt or uncertainty, such as “I think” or “maybe.”
    • Even when you're unsure, avoid using tentative language. Instead, frame your response as something you are actively looking into.
    • Example: "Let me take a moment to investigate this for you."
  • If You Are Unsure:
    • Rather than admitting uncertainty, let the customer know you are researching the issue to ensure the best solution.
    • Avoid mentioning that you are asking for help from others or your supervisor. This can make the customer lose confidence in your ability to handle their issue.
    • Example: “I’m looking into this issue right now to provide the most accurate solution.”
  • Return with Authority:
    • After researching the issue (or getting help from a colleague), respond with a confident solution.
    • Example: “After reviewing your account/researching the options, here are the steps we can take…”


Step 3: Use Strategic Pauses

Just like putting a customer on hold during a phone call, taking a moment to review their account or investigate their issue in a chat can help manage their expectations.

  • Purpose of the Pause:
    • Use a brief pause to show the customer that you’re thoroughly considering their issue. This demonstrates that you’re not rushing to provide a response, but instead, you’re looking into all potential solutions.
    • Even if you already know the answer, the pause adds a layer of diligence to your interaction.
  • Example for Using a Pause:
    • "Let me take a moment to review your account details and explore all available options."


Step 4: Delivering Bad News

When the solution you have to offer does not align with the customer’s request, follow this structured approach to break the news gently.

  1. Recap the Problem:
    • Briefly summarize the customer’s issue and their desired solution to show you understand.
    • Example: "I see you’ve requested [customer's request] to resolve [the issue]."
  2. Explain the Facts:
    • Clearly and concisely explain the reason behind the decision or situation, giving them the facts of what you found.
    • Example: "Based on the account review, the funds were sent as a check instead of direct deposit because the provided routing number was invalid."
  3. Show Empathy and Apologize (if appropriate):
    • Acknowledge their frustration and offer a genuine apology if warranted.
    • Example: “I understand this situation has been frustrating, and I’m truly sorry for the inconvenience.”
    • Note: Avoid the generic “Sorry for any inconvenience” phrase, which can seem dismissive. Instead, acknowledge the specific issue they are facing.
  4. Present Confident Solutions:
    • After explaining the situation, provide confident solutions for what you can do, even if it doesn’t align with their ideal outcome.
    • Example: “While I can't expedite the delivery of your check, I can reissue it as a direct deposit once the updated banking information is provided.


Step 5: Offer Leadership Contact Information

If the customer continues to escalate the situation, offering them direct contact details for your Leadership Team can help calm the interaction.

  • Offering Leadership Contact:
    • If the customer insists on speaking with a higher authority, assure them that someone from Leadership will follow up and provide the relevant contact information.
    • Example: “I apologize for your frustration. We are working on resolving this as quickly as possible. I can provide the direct contact information for my Leadership Team so that you can follow up directly.”

Provide the following details:

    • Elisha: 469-393-6391
    • Alexa: 469-393-6362
  • Notify Leadership:
    • If you provide Leadership’s contact information, ensure you give them a heads-up so they are prepared to follow up.


Step 6: Accept That Some Customers May Not Be Satisfied

Despite your best efforts, some customers may not be satisfied regardless of how well you manage the chat interaction.

  • Don’t Take It Personally:
    • Recognize that some customers will not be satisfied no matter how well you handle their issue. This is not a reflection of your skills or effort. Some customers simply need to escalate to a second representative to feel that their problem is being taken seriously.

Final Tips for Chat De-Escalation:

  • Be Concise and Clear: In chat interactions, avoid long-winded responses. Keep your messages clear and to the point.
  • Confidence is Key: Customers are less likely to push back when they sense you know what you’re doing.
  • Empathy is Powerful: Even if you cannot provide the exact solution they want, showing empathy can go a long way in de-escalating a situation.
  • Maintain Control: By guiding the conversation and using pauses strategically, you remain in control of the interaction, showing professionalism and calm.

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